Dear Jacquelyn,

What’s the best way to handle a coworker who is asking too many personal questions? I don’t know how to answer without sounding rude.

Dear Reader,

When you’re working with the same people every day, co-workers naturally start to become curious about one another.

This isn’t unusual considering these are the people you spend most of your waking hours with.

However, there are people who may want more information about your private life than you’re comfortable sharing. There are ways to take control of the situation and make your life a little less stressful.

How you respond to a co-worker’s attempts at being intrusive can make all the difference. It certainly can be hard to stay professional when working so closely with co-workers who don’t seem to understand.

You may just want to run and hide or respond with a sarcastic remark, but try not to get defensive. If you find yourself engaged in conversations where the co-worker wants to find out too much information about you, simply excuse yourself politely.

Keep office conversations to a minimum and do not continue the conversation longer than you have to. Having a sentence ready is a good deterrent, such as “I have an important email to get out.”

This provides you with an easy, tactful escape. Setting boundaries will let your co-worker know that you are not comfortable with all their questions.

If your co-worker’s questions are getting to be too much for you, change the topic and talk about something boring. Your coworker might get so confused by the sudden change in topic that they will just get back to work.

Use body language as another way to handle nosy chatter. A change in body posture and returning to the position you were working in before being interrupted is a great way to signal that the conversation is over. Another tip is, if you stand when someone enters the room, you can easily signal for them to leave by sitting back down.

No one likes to be put on the spot about sharing something personal. You can divert unwanted questions with some crafty maneuvering and finesse.

Respectfully Yours,

Jacquelyn

Have a question? Email: jacquelyn@ptd.net. Jacquelyn Youst is owner of the Pennsylvania Academy of Protocol, specializing in etiquette training.

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