A teddy bear was all I wanted.

Each year I waited and hoped, and each year, I was disappointed. Finally, when I was 10 years old, I found a way to get my beloved bear. He is still with me today.

I thought of my struggle to acquire that bear when I came across an inspirational quote recently that resonated with me: “If you want it, work for it.” Of course, there is not much work a young child can do to get what she wants, but I was determined.

I recall walking a mile to go door to door selling chances on what was called a “punch card.” Someone said those cards are illegal today, which may or may not be true, but I have not seen one since the 1950s. Anyway, the prize for the lucky winner was a teddy bear, and the seller of the card was to receive a teddy bear, too. That is how I earned my cherished bear.

I learned never to expect anyone to give me what I want. If I want it badly enough, I have to go get it myself.

Persistence, dedication and a willingness to work hard pay off, even for a child. I made my own dream come true, and I believe each of us can do the same.

If you really are longing for something special and hoping someone will give it to you this holiday season, you may be better off getting it for yourself. That way you won’t be disappointed, and you can enjoy focusing on the surprise presents you receive from friends and loved ones.

Speaking for myself, my wish list would cost the giver little money, yet the gifts would be priceless to me. I value thoughtfulness and especially appreciate handmade presents from my favorite people.

One recent Christmas, my sister-in-law surprised me with an intricate needlepoint squirrel - my favorite animal - and that gift still makes me smile whenever I glance at it in my kitchen.

My best friend and her husband, both now deceased, were masters of beautiful handiwork and always spent time making the gifts they presented to their friends on special occasions.

Throughout my house, I see reminders of these friends in almost every room. It is my way of keeping dear ones close.

My late husband enjoyed shopping for me and often surprised me with the cards and gifts he carefully chose, but my favorite presents from him each year were the paintings and poems he spent weeks creating for me.

One friend, who hates to cook or bake, cherishes homemade gifts of cookies, candies and breads she can serve to guests. Since I love to spend hours in the kitchen, I have an easy time making her happy with my treats.

Another treasured gift I once gave to an elderly friend was a box of mixed greeting cards and a sheet of stamps.

She did not drive and often found herself needing a birthday, get-well or thank-you card and had no way to buy one.

Movie or concert tickets or subscriptions to a favorite magazine or newspaper make thoughtful gifts for older persons who count their pennies and hesitate to spend on “luxuries” for themselves.

Sometimes the best gift of all is just the pleasure of our company. Visit someone and play cards or a board game with the person.

Giving our undivided time and attention to someone can make our recipients far happier than any expensive material possessions ever could. With a little imagination and thought, we can give presents that have lasting meaning to our loved ones and friends, without stressing ourselves or our budgets this holiday season.

Of course, a cute little teddy bear can always be added for good measure.