Dear Jacquelyn,

I have been going to a new hair salon for a little over a year now. I am happy with my hairstyle, but I feel uncomfortable every time I go because of all the gossip that goes on. Going to the salon is one of the few luxuries I do for myself and I would like this time to be a little more relaxing. Is there anything I can do or should I find another salon?

Dear Reader,

This is one of those situations that whirls us back to the atmosphere and environment of high school: the peer pressure of either participating in the gossip to feel included, or duck and cover.

Because you are taking the relaxing high road and do not want to be bothered with the latest gossip, you have three options: Stay and deal with it, inform the manager, or find a new salon.

For some people, hair salon small talk is a pleasant way to pass the time, but for others the potential awkwardness makes their regular hair appointment a dreaded trip.

There are no official salon etiquette rules, but when gossip and socializing take priority over hair and your peace, it may be a sign that it’s time to break up with your hairdresser.

At a good salon, the professional stylists are able to understand their clients’ body language and respect their personal space. Ask your friends and family about the salons they go to.

Or better yet, ask that lady whose hair you admire where she goes. This will require some homework but is well worth it. The goal is a good experience at the salon and a quiet change of salons with little fanfare.

You deserve courtesy and peace to enjoy the experience. After all you’re paying them, they aren’t paying you.

Respectfully Yours,

Jacquelyn

Have a question? Email: jacquelyn@ptd.net. Jacquelyn Youst is owner of the Pennsylvania Academy of Protocol, specializing in etiquette training. She is on the board of directors of the National Civility Foundation.

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