Dear Jacquelyn,

I’ve heard that giving two toasts at an event such as a dinner party is proper etiquette. Can you please explain when it is appropriate for a host to give the two toasts and how it’s done?

Dear Reader,

Toasting to friendship, health and happiness has a long history, but the tradition is becoming rare and most people have had little instruction and practice in it.

The art of the toast is a combination of public speaking and improvisation skills. With a little basic instruction, you will be ready to confidently raise your glass at your next dinner party.

There are two types of toasts that a host should propose at a dinner party.

The first type is less formal and is offered at the start of the meal. The host may sit or stand and welcome and thank guests for coming.

The second type of toast is more formal and offered at the beginning of dessert. Traditionally, this formal toast is proposed to the person of honor.

The host will rise, stand behind his or her chair, and raise the glass. After the host has offered the toast, he or she sits down and everyone except the person of honor will drink.

Following the toast, the person of honor should stand behind his or her chair, accept the toast, be seated, and, only then drink.

Keep in mind that it is always important to craft your toast to the type of occasion and who is in attendance. For example, you would say something quite different at a family event versus a work dinner party. With either occasion, warmth and sincerity go a long way in terms of being appreciated and well-received.

Proposing a toast is one of many host responsibilities. In the event that a host does not step up, anyone may take the lead because proposing a toast is gracious and always appreciated.

Celebrating life’s big and small events with a memorable toast may seem old-fashioned. However, it will always remain a meaningful gesture.

Respectfully Yours,

Jacquelyn

Have a question? Email: jacquelyn@ptd.net. Jacquelyn Youst is owner of the Pennsylvania Academy of Protocol, specializing in etiquette training. She is on the board of directors of the National Civility Foundation.

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